Though many were aware that Howard Meyer had been battling cancer for the past two years, news of the LGBT community leader, philanthropist and business leader's passing yesterday morning still struck like a thunderbolt.


Meyer, 61, was larger than life possessing a personality that equaled his generous heart. He was the longtime owner of The Complex (formerly Angles) on Chouteau, a staple of St. Louis LGBT nightlife which operated from Dec. 1989 - July 2011. In the age of the large warehouse clubs, the many manifestations of the Complex reigned supreme providing a gathering spot and playground for three generations of LGBTers. HowardMeyer1


But Meyer was more than just a bar owner and businessman. Heavily involved in city, state and federal politics he served as an openly gay 6th Ward Democratic Committee member and hosted countless fundraisers starring governors, senators and presidential candidates. Indeed, Meyer had his finger on the pulse of local politics. What's more, there were few LGBT non-profits whose Board he did not sit on throughout the 1990s and 2000s.


Meyer also served as the longtime LGBT liaison to Mayor Francis G. Slay through two terms and was a former HIV/AIDS liaison to Slay and helped to control 25-percent of the City Health Department's budget.


Meyer was generous to a fault and there was nary a LGBT cause that he couldn't be counted on to get behind from Team Saint Louis to PROMO - but it was his HIV/AIDS charity work that he valued most. The recipient of many honors over the years, he was given the 1994 Felton T. Day Award and 2013 Lisa Wagaman Lifetime Achievement Award from Pride St. Louis, Inc.


Raised in North County, Meyer graduated from high school in the small town of Bowling Green, Mo. before returning with his family to the St. Louis area. Throughout the 1970s, he enjoyed a successful career in the hotel, restaurant and bar business all the while exploring the fledgling gay community. The avid city dweller went on to enjoy a second career in real estate and insurance prior to opening The Complex.


Meyer's involvement in local politics began with the Lions Club in Oakville where he became involved in several races including Harriet Woods' bid for U.S. Senate. In a 2003 interview with this reporter, he admitted that it was the tragic death of Missouri Gov. Mel Carnahan in late 2000 that proved the catalyst for his infectious political activism. Carnahan, his son, and a top aide were killed in a plane crash after leaving a fundraiser at Meyer's home amid a heated race to unseat Republican John Ashcroft in the U.S. Senate. (Although deceased, Carnahan went on to win the race and his wife Jean served in his stead.)


"It was the governor's party at my house the night that he passed 40 minutes after leaving my doorway that really kind of propelled me," Meyer said. "I believe so firmly in his and his family's values of good government. Mel would always say, 'good government.' It's not about this, it's not about this, it's about getting people involved in good government."


Tributes to Meyer have been legion since the news of his death broke on social media yesterday morning:


"Howard Meyer was a St. Louis Icon," said longtime Complex employee Leon Braxton, aka Dieta Pepsi via Facebook. "He worked tirelessly to bring attention and support to our community. He worked with Mayor Slay on countless LGBT issues that included homelessness and hate crimes. He was not just the owner of The Complex Nightclub and my employer for 21 years he was an activist, a humanitarian, a philanthropist, a father to us who worked for him but most of all he was a great friend."


"We've been about as close as lovers without benefits as two gay men could be for the last 25 years," said Joe Bradley, another friend and employee, on Facebook. "I came to St. Louis to work for him in 2006 and he took care of me from then on. He let me live out my "drag" fixation thru Miss Gay Midwest America and Miss Missouri Continental for 20 years. He always told me to put my priorities in order and not have drag first, but he would still indulge me."


"Sending love and condolences to Howard Meyer's many friends of which I was one," Joan Lipkin, Artistic Director of That Uppity Theatre Company also shared on Facebook. "When I saw him a few months ago, he was obviously sick and struggling and when I expressed concern, he waved it away. 'I'm doing fine, doll. How are you? I know you are up to something.' Such a generous spirit. He will be missed."


Per Meyer's request, no funeral services will be held but plans for a public celebration of his life are being planned to be held in the next few weeks.


UPDATE: Join the family and friends of Howard Meyer at Bartolino's Osteria (2103 Sulphar Ave., 63139) on Sunday, Jan. 25 from 1-3 p.m. to pay tribute and honor to an amazing man. He touched thousands of hearts and will forever be missed. We welcome you to gather for light hors d'oeuvres and conversation. A cash bar will be available.



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